Children

Earlier today I was reading some blogs that I came across online from people ranting about why they hate children. Hate children? I must admit I'm not the most child orientated person in my family or group of friends (and I'm a mother of three) but I could never hate a child. Yes children are annoying with their incessant whining and I want it now tantrums, but bottom line is that's kids. I'm more annoyed that these people take their frustration out by directing that anger at the "little git" who kicked him in the supermarket (OK I'd be narked off too) instead of at the shit parent who clearly can't be bothered to teach the child proper respect and etiquette. My kids learned very quickly that disrespect and rudeness will get them nowhere, and I'm the first to admit that they're no angels, all kids have their moments, but if mine do happen to forget their manners then I'll give them one reminder and if the attitude continues I take away their TV/games privileges and make them earn it back, if they draw on the walls, I make them wash it off, if they hurt someone or bully then they are grounded and still lose all their priveliges.I try to teach them about respect and responsibility through tough love. I believe discipline and routine are the key to a happy child (although admittedly I'm quite rubbish at routine), parents don't always get it right and yes we do get frustrated at having to repeat ourselves constantly, but if you make the effort so will the children.
The point that I'm trying to make is that it's not the child's fault it's the parent's, how is the child supposed to know right from wrong if the parent can't be bothered to teach them? Even those who have children with ADHD or other learning difficulties and disabilities can bring them under control, yes it is hard raising a child with ADHD, I know plenty of parents who have kids with it or some other learning difficulty and many a time i've sat and listened to them while they have sobbed out their heart from sheer exhaustion both mental and physical but they still manage to bring their kids under control.
I believe that the parent's attitude towards their child's behaviour can make a whole world of difference and if you can't cope or you are struggling, for fuck sake swallow your damn pride and ask social services for help, they won't take your kids away unless you give them a bloody good reason too, it's their job to HELP and SUPPORT you if you need it. I should know, I had to have a full blown breakdown before I learned that the help is there if you ask for it and that came about because I was too proud to admit I couldn't cope.
rant over feel loads better now he he